If you’re a single parent of at least three kids, you will understand what I mean by “I want my ME time.” I have five kids, three of them teenagers, and two of them middle schoolers. It’s an understatement when I say, “They are giving me a hard time.” Most days, they are making me so crazy that I don’t know how I can even handle it. I need to relax, and I need some adult interaction aside from my workmates. Being a single parent is just a difficult life, I’d say that.
Don’t get me wrong. I love my children with all my heart. These little and not-so-little monsters are most of my life. I would fight for them, kill for them, and die for them – without blinking. Yeah, I can become a criminal because of these critters. They are my younglings. What would you expect? But true, I need some ME time every day.
And so, I devised ways to get that ME time, without them all hovering at me and giving me a “hard” time.
I work from 6:00 AM to 2:00 PM. With that, I wake up at around 4-ish in the morning to get everything ready – food for the breakfast, their lunch box, and for afternoon snacks. As early as ten years old, I have also thought them how to wash their clothes, but I do the sheets and other stuff in the laundry.
Also, I make sure that the fridge is packed with fruits, bread, and spreads. Healthy foods only and minimal chips and junk. They love egg salad sandwich, and cheese pimiento, which is why I make it every weekend. What I do with my schedule is tough, but it’s working for me, and I get my two hours ME time, at most, every single day.
From work, I arrive home at around 2:45 to 3:00 PM. The middle schoolers are dropped off by the bus an hour after that. So, from 3:00 to 4:00 PM, I take a nap amidst the chaos inside the house. While the big girls do the dishes in the morning, of course, it’s not that polished enough, and moms want a clean house. I pretend I’m blind and close my eyes. The pre-teens wake me up when they arrive.
The nap is not my ME time, okay. It’s rest time. Just wait for it, and I will tell you.
And so, when the two boys arrive from school, I stand up and fix the house, help with homework, and make dinner too. Of course, the snacks are ready for them when they get home as I have prepared it in the morning. I don’t have any trouble with that. They either bring it to school or eat it when they arrive.
The big girls are home around six or seven in the evening since eight o’clock is their curfew at night during school days. They clean up the kitchen, while I do the rest of the house, except their rooms. I do the laundry during this period too. Also, each child is responsible for cleaning their bedroom. I eat dinner together with the boys, and that is around 6:00 PM. If the girls are home, we all eat together.
So, where does my ME time fit in?
I will reveal it all to you on my next blog, which is coming out next week! Watch out for it!