Being emotional is a known sign of weakness. But sometimes, being emotional can be a source of strength. So what entails being emotional? Are you an emotional person?
Dealing With Inner Turmoils
People can take advantage of our being emotional.
Others would jump right off when we get emotional and take advantage of us. That is why we tend to stop ourselves from being emotional. We have this mentality that we think we need to show the world that we are strong despite being emotional. But there is entirely nothing wrong with that, though. In some fortunate instances, that strategy works for those who want to focus on immediate emotional healing. However, the usual result of that forceful emotional process is going back to severe emotional turmoil. This emotional turmoil leads to various negative outcomes.
Since most of us are driven by empathy and compassion, we always think about ourselves more delicately. We want to feel better, so we continuously attempt to convince ourselves that we cannot be emotional. That is good, actually. The more we want to regain ourselves, the more we become aware of what we should and should not do. But sometimes, the effort we put into stabilizing our emotional state is way too much that we condemn feeling emotional overall. This is where being emotional can turn out negative for us.
The In Denial Stage That Gets Us Really Bad. When we are in denial, it prevents the emotional aspect of us to show. Usually, when we feel a little bit emotional about something, we often shrug it off. We are used to ignoring emotional feelings that we do not understand. We somehow do not want to exaggerate our emotional feelings, choosing to forget them. But the problem with that is it sticks with us. Deep inside, emotional issues rot. And the more we lie to ourselves, the more it gives us this underlying emotional pain.
When we are emotional and not okay, we often tell everyone the opposite. When someone asks, “How are you?” it is merely easy to respond, “I’m okay,” though we are not. Of course, our intention is not to lie to others, but we find security while lying about emotional feelings somehow. Perhaps that is due to the belief that everything shall pass and that we should not make a big deal over a strange emotional issue. We think that soon enough, things will get back to the way it was.
When We Say We’re Not Emotional
The more we say we’re not emotional, the more we show how emotional we really are. But the emotional part about the habit of telling people that we are not emotional is the impossibility of these concerned individuals to lend a hand.
The more we try and convince them that we are not emotional, the more they get used to seeing us in a strong and willful condition. And once they get that idea of our emotional capability and do not genuinely need any emotional help, these people end up ignoring us. They will not bother to ask us anymore if we are okay. And that is what makes us sad, empty, emotional, and alone. Emotional and isolated.
The Vulnerability Of Emotion That Needs To Be Seen
When we are in a deep hole of emotional despair, we know that it is only a span of time before we eventually break down and shatter into emotional pieces. We are aware that we need emotional help and that we are crying so hard deep inside because others cannot see what we are going through. We know there is something wrong, and most of the time, we understand what is wrong.
What Are We Most Anxious About?
Often when we are emotional, we are also worried. Anxiety, too, breeds emotional outbursts.
It is just that we are often emotional about uncertainties. We are not prepared for the emotional consequences of our actions or behaviors. We are scared of others’ judgment towards our emotional inability. But if we carefully think about it, expressing our thoughts and feelings often creates the same result. Meaning, regardless of hiding and lying about our emotional feelings, letting them out still gives us the same expectations.
People either ignore us or give us attention. So in this matter, it provides us a definite answer to know which one we prefer – that is to express our feelings no matter what.
Since we usually emphasize leaning into the emotional discomfort we often experience, it moves us away from finally accepting the imperfections of things. And that holds us in the idea that we should stay and get better no matter what.
It’s Okay Not To Be Okay
But apparently, being not okay is still okay. This means that being emotional is sometimes okay. It conveys the concept that what we feel is what we should feel because it is real. Our emotional struggle is not because we are weak but because we learn to accept ourselves with non-judgment, self-compassion, and self-love. The emotional struggle may mean self-awareness as well.
Being emotional does not mean we should be strong enough to control our emotional feelings. Instead, it means we should understand our emotional capability. Of course, it is not easy to stay emotional and unavailable all the time. But if we honor our emotional experience, our recovery will be all worth it.