Is Being Emotional Okay? What entails being emotional? Are you an emotional person? Being emotional can be a sign of weakness, but emotions are helpful.  Intense emotions can be tough to deal with. People can take advantage of being emotional.

A girl, calming down her emotions. When thoughts get too overwhelming, we need to pause and think calming thoughts to gain back our balance.

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Feeling Emotional?

Others would jump right off when we get emotive and take advantage of us. That is why we tend to stop ourselves from being emotional. We have this mentality that we need to show the world that we are strong despite being spontaneous. But there is entirely nothing wrong with that, though. In some fortunate instances, that strategy works for those who want to focus on immediate healing of disturbing emotions. However, the usual result of that forceful spontaneous process is going back to severe turmoil. This spontaneous turmoil leads to various negative outcomes.

Since most of us are driven by empathy and compassion, we think about ourselves more delicately. We want to feel better, so we continuously attempt to convince ourselves that we cannot be emo. That is good. The more we want to regain ourselves, the more we become aware of what we should and should not do. But sometimes, the effort we put into stabilizing our emotions is way too much that we condemn feeling spontaneous overall. This is where being spontaneous can turn out negative for us.



Denial Stage That Gets Us Bad

When we are in denial, it prevents us from showing our spontaneous aspect. Usually, when we feel a little bit emotional about something, we often shrug it off. We are used to ignoring emotional feelings that we do not understand. We somehow do not want to exaggerate our emotional feelings, choosing to forget them. But the problem with that is it sticks with us. Deep inside, emotional issues rot. And the more we lie to ourselves, the more it gives us this underlying pain.



We Often Tell Everyone The Opposite Of Our Feelings

When we are emotional and not okay, we often tell everyone the opposite. When someone asks, “How are you?” it is easy to respond, “I’m okay,” though we are not. Of course, our intention is not to lie to others, but we somehow find security while lying about emotional feelings. Perhaps that is due to the belief that everything shall pass and that we should not make a big deal over a strange emotional issue. We think that soon enough, things will return to the way they were.

Not Showing Emotions

The more we say we’re not emotional, the more we show how emotional we are. But the emotional part about the habit of telling people that we are not emotional is the impossibility of these concerned individuals to lend a hand.

The more we try and convince them that we are not emotional, the more they get used to seeing us in a strong and willful condition. And once they get that idea of our emotional capability and do not genuinely need any emotional help, these people ignore us. They will not bother to ask us anymore if we are okay. And that makes us sad, empty, emotional, and alone. Emotional and isolated.

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When we are in a dep hole of emotional despair, we know that it is only a period before we eventually break down and shatter into emotional pieces. We are aware that we need emotional help and are crying deeply because others cannot see what we are going through. We know something is wrong, and most of the time, we understand what is wrong.

What Are We Most Anxious About?

When we are emotion-filled, we are also worried.

Anxiety, too, breeds outbursts of feelings. It is just that we are often emotional about uncertainties. We are not prepared for the emotional consequences of our actions or behaviors. We are scared of others’ judgment of our emotional inability. But if we carefully think about it, expressing our thoughts and feelings often creates the same result. Regardless of hiding and lying about our emotional feelings, letting them out still gives us the same expectations. People either ignore us or give us attention.

So in this matter, it provides us a definite answer to know which one we prefer – that is to express our feelings no matter what.

Since we usually emphasize leaning into the emotional discomfort we often experience, it moves us away from finally accepting the imperfections of things. And that holds us in the idea that we should stay and get better with our emotions no matter what.



It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

But apparently, being not okay is still okay. This means that being emotional is sometimes okay. It conveys the concept that what we feel is what we should feel because it is real. Our emotional struggle is not because we are weak but because we learn to accept ourselves with non-judgment, self-compassion, and self-love. The emotional struggle may mean self-awareness as well. 

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Emotional Capability

Being emotional does not mean we should be strong enough to control our emotional feelings. Instead, it means we should understand our emotional capability. Of course, it is not easy to stay emotional and unavailable all the time. But if we honor our emotional experience, our recovery will be all worth it.